Here are a few things that experts believe will always remain hidden from a partner.
No matter how much you love your partner, they might still get attracted to their best friends or family members. Viveck Shettyy, life coach, says, “You will never have the slightest inkling of this secret kept by your partner as the truth may end up creating an awkward situation for everybody, including themselves. And so, they may decide to keep this a secret.”Sexual history
Sex is still a taboo for many in our country. People will always hide the number of intimate relationships they’ve had. Dr Arati Suryawanshi, psychologist, says, “Some people love the idea of their partner being a virgin as it brings value to the relationship.
The ex effectDating someone who’s been in many relationships is frowned upon in India, though this thought process may have somewhat changed recently. Shettyy says, “It may be extremely difficult for an individual to reveal to their partner about the number of relationships they have had before they met. They would be extremely worried that this aspect may affect their spouse’s perception, and eventually create a lot of discomfort in their relationship.”
ShortcomingsThough you may like most things about your partner, there’ll always be something that you don’t. Tanushree Bhargava, clinical psychologist, says, “Shortcomings of your partner, especially, aspects which can’t be changed, are never revealed. These can be things that one dislikes about the partner’s looks, weight and complexion.”
TemperamentMany people have temper issues from childhood, which are mostly hidden in a relationship. Suryawanshi says, “Getting angry is not a very good sign. It can make or break a relationship, or have a devastating impact on the bond that two people share.”
It is a well-known fact that most people have differences with their in-laws. Bhargava says, “People in such situations hide these differences or ill feelings that they have about their in-laws, from their partners. At the end of the day, being critical about in-laws can hamper your relationship with your partner.”
On the other hand, your partner will never reveal the kind of issues your in-laws have with you, which they will be privy to. Suryawanshi adds, “These issues can be hurtful and hard to recover from. Your partner will keep it a secret as you may always remember what they said, and later, use it as evidence that they never liked you from the beginning.”